Esdras 3:13-14

“The emperor is certainly powerful, men are numerous, and wine is strong, but who rules and controls them all? It is women!”

Continuing on from my post “There Is Nothing Stronger Than A Woman, But Truth Can Conquer Anything.” See the link at the bottom of the page.

Or read 1 Esdras 4:13-43; The Speech about Women, for full context.

This passage challenges a dangerous misconception in modern society—the belief that power exists in one form alone. That it resides only in wealth, in visible leadership, or in physical strength. But power is far more complex, and misunderstanding it comes at great cost.

Too often, women are led to doubt their own influence and capability—and men, too, are taught to underestimate it. This distorted paradigm shapes how society perceives abuse, creating blind spots that allow certain forms of harm to flourish unseen. Abuse is not only physical; it is relational, legal, and psychological. It can appear as the theft of a man’s honor, the destruction of his reputation, the severing of relationships with children and mutual friends. It can exploit legal systems in ways that favor women, or manifest as covert psychological manipulation—a shadowy combination of tactics that often go unnoticed because public assumptions mislabel where power lies.

We must understand: power is not one thing, and neither is abuse.

“6 Dark Traits of the Female Sociopath

Female sociopaths and narcissists are particularly dangerous because their manipulation is often covert, hidden behind charm and a friendly exterior. While definitions of sociopathy and narcissism vary, those on the high end of the spectrum share several key traits: lack of empathy, manipulation for personal gain, egocentrism, entitlement, and often a sadistic pleasure in others’ suffering.

Society’s expectation of women as gentle and nurturing allows female sociopaths to mask aggression, making them especially skilled in covert relational abuse, such as sabotaging reputations, destroying social relationships, and manipulating legal or psychological systems.

The six hallmark traits include:

1. Mirroring and love-bombing – They charm and mirror victims to gather information and exploit vulnerabilities.
2. Superficial charm – Speech and gestures are exaggerated and insincere, masking their true intentions.
3. Covert sabotage – They undermine others subtly, particularly through relational aggression and social manipulation.
4. Lack of remorse and internalized misogyny – They feel entitled, envy other women’s success, and are willing to harm anyone who threatens their ego.
5. Sadistic tendencies – They enjoy causing pain, disappointment, and emotional chaos.
6. Thirst for attention and control – They seek admiration, sexual or social power, and validation, discarding others when no longer useful.

^{Drea Lee, Robert’s ex-wife, is, in my view, far from fit to be called a mother. I will share much more about her in detail in my upcoming book.}

^{I recall seeing a post from Joann one day, saying they had no food in their refrigerator when she came home. I remember wondering how that was even possible, after all the millions Robert provided over 10 years to ensure their basic needs were met. Equally troubling, I witnessed them complain individually about financial hardship immediately after Robert was imprisoned.}

^{The depth of my disdain is nearly beyond words. I have remained silent, out of respect for her role as their mother, yet in my book, I will lay bare the full truth of what I have witnessed and what Robert has endured.}

Female sociopaths are master manipulators, blending charm and cruelty, making victims doubt themselves. Healing involves recognizing the manipulation, seeking validation, documenting experiences, and practicing self-care to overcome their toxic influence.”_¹

“Psychopathy in women

As for the behavioral expression of the disorder, Forouzan and Cooke suggest that women who are manipulative more often tend to flirt, while manipulative men are more likely to run scams and commit fraud. In women, the tendency to run away, exhibit self-injurious behavior, and manipulation all characterize impulsiveness and behavioral problems. Moreover, their criminal behavior consists primarily of theft and fraud.

Some studies have suggested that while men more often show physical aggression, women more often display a more relational and verbal form of aggression. This may, for instance, occur through the manipulation of social networks in attempting to exclude the victim from a community. Alternatively, it may take the form of threats of self-injury, with consequences for family and friends. 

As for underlying psychological conditions, it has been suggested that typical markers for psychopathy, such as promiscuous behavior, may have different underlying motivational factors in men and women. For instance, promiscuity in female psychopaths may reflect a wish to gain financial or social benefits.”_²

Countless children suffer at the hands of women who, whether through mental illness, psychosis, or manipulation, become instruments of harm. A healthy woman is meant to safeguard and protect a child, but unchecked mental illness and societal misconceptions can invert that role. Misjudging a man like Robert as an abuser while treating women who act as predators as victims is a grave error. It endangers children, men, and society at large.

Read Robert’s real, heartbreaking story of female-perpetrated sexual abuse here:

When Little Boys Carry Big Secrets – Robert’s Story

We can no longer afford the simplistic narratives of power. To protect the innocent, to honor truth, we must see power in all its forms and recognize abuse wherever it hides.

Over the past seven-plus years, I have learned a painful truth: no matter which side of justice you stand on—even when you are on the right side—you can still mistake public conspiracies, slander, misrepresentation, gossip, and personal assumptions for truth. Sometimes, in spiritual circles, this is even called “discernment.” Yet, discernment without God is often a mirage.

This mistake has caused Robert and me immense grief, prolonged the course of justice, and kept the real problem hidden. I have discovered that very few people truly know how to go to God for understanding, guidance, and the fullness of truth. Far more, simply refuse.

“It feels as though he was taken only yesterday,
and yet as if a thousand years have passed.
I ache to see his face, to feel the warmth of his skin,
to hold him close, to pray side by side,
to lift our hearts in gratitude to God together.

To breathe in this new world, this life reborn,
this path laid long ago—
not by the measure of days, but by God’s eternal hand,
set in motion when the earth itself was but a thought.”

This reliance on human wisdom alone—on what seems clever, rational, or socially accepted—comes at a high cost. Atheists, lacking spiritual grounding and balanced perspective, are particularly vulnerable to deception, manipulation, and being swept into social movements like Mute R. Kelly. But even the faithful are not immune. Many feel far too secure in their connection with God and truth, thinking they already possess understanding, and so they fail to seek His guidance humbly.

“Psychopathy in women

The antisocial behavior of the young women may also have a different expression than in the young men. It has been suggested that early criminal tendencies, rule violations, physical aggression, and violence are good predictors of psychopathic development in young men. At this same stage, young women, who later develop the disorder, show a more relational form of aggression characterized by jealousy, self-harm, manipulation, and verbal aggression. The exception is a small subcategory of young women who share the same tendencies as young men with behavioral problems, but with a later onset than what is typical in young men.”²

Throughout my years with Robert, I have learned to depend entirely on God’s wisdom. Time and again, I have seen how easily human judgment fails. How we are misled by pride, ego, and the hunger for self-importance. To rely on God is to maintain humility—especially when it comes to the lives, intentions, and stories of others.

We must resist forming opinions and judgments based solely on media portrayals, no matter how compelling or damning they appear. No one can establish guilt or innocence without careful, unbiased examination of the documented evidence. High-profile cases are particularly vulnerable to corruption, media curation, and public bias.

The solution is simple, though difficult for many: we must return to God. Humbly admit that we do not know. That we do not understand. That we never will. Leave judgment to Him. Leave the distribution of wisdom, understanding, and truth to Him.

Truth is not the story someone tells with tears. Truth is rooted in common sense, Godly wisdom, knowledge, and evidence. Corrupt hearts can manufacture tears; many seek gain, not justice. We cannot afford to mistake performance for reality. We must let God be the ultimate arbiter, and only then can we glimpse the light of true justice.

Proverbs 3:5-6

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”

“There Is Nothing Stronger Than A Woman, But Truth Can Conquer Anything”

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^{1.Gibson, S. (2018, July). 6 dark traits of the female sociopath. Psych Central. https://psychcentral.com/blog/recovering-narcissist/2018/07/6-dark-traits-of-the-female-sociopath#8}

^{2.Wynn, R., Høiseth, M. H., & Pettersen, G. (2012). Psychopathy in women: theoretical and clinical perspectives. International journal of women’s health, 4, 257–263. https://doi.org/10.2147/IJWH.S25518}