Let’s rewind to where it began — a mix of reality TV producers and a secret circle obsessed with him and the spotlight he commanded.

Firstly, let me say that I genuinely understand why almost everyone who watched Surviving R.Kelly believed the stories immediately — without evidence, without background research, and with little to no common-sense reasoning applied. The stage had been set long beforehand by some of Robert’s long-time pursuers: men and women who felt entitled to something from him, who carried a persistent victim mentality about their own choices, and who viewed everything through the lens that he had somehow denied them what they believed they deserved — whether that was money, time, or his love.

In saying that I understand, I also have to say that I don’t understand why so many people today so easily accept a narrative about someone based purely on emotion, pride, or personal triggers — without doing serious, unbiased research and applying logic to what they learn. Nobody’s character, behaviour, or motives can be reduced to what someone else says about them, no matter who is saying it. Each of us must form our opinions based on first-hand experience, and leave other people to resolve their own personal grudges. Everyone on this planet has at least one person who felt hurt or betrayed by them, and none of us would want that person’s negative opinion to become permanent “truth.”

Robert — being a public figure — is even more vulnerable, because celebrity gossip is now an industry, especially on YouTube. Some bloggers build entire channels around a single celebrity, digging up every story they can find. I know of one black female YouTuber in particular who aggressively drove many of these false allegations — proudly building her platform on them while ignoring Robert’s basic human and legal right to the presumption of innocence. She disregarded the credibility of sources, claimed “evidence” that didn’t exist, and treated Robert as if he were less than human simply because he was famous. To many people today, celebrities are automatically assumed guilty — as if they could never simply be talented and hardworking, but must instead have gained success through something dark or deceptive.

I also want to say this: I have always been a sensitive woman, but I am also a straight shooter — especially when it comes to subjects I understand well and that are personal. If I don’t know someone, I tend to be slow to speak and judge, as the bible commands. But once I have a clear grasp of an issue, and it affects me or those I love, I won’t hold back in how I explain it.

Robert’s past also made things more complicated. He openly admitted in the autobiography Soulacoaster that he felt ashamed about past affairs and cheating. Growing up in the 60s, he believed — wrongly — that this was simply how rock stars behaved. Groupie culture was normalized, and in those times, many young girls were encouraged into that world without serious age verification. Later, after false assumptions arose about his “showmance” with Aaliyah (see my blog post about that story) — and the accusations that followed, Robert became very strict about identification. He even wrote, “Show me some ID before we get too deep.” His position was clear: he wanted nothing to do with anyone underage.

Because of this, some young women tried harder to deceive him — dressing older, behaving older, and in some cases altering their appearance just to get near him and appear older (using false identification; the law doesn’t regard trickery like this as the responsibility of the deceiver but the responsibility of the deceived!) . That vulnerability is what many people misunderstand. Robert was surrounded by grown women and dated women of various ages. But the environment around fame opened the door to manipulation, lies, and exploitation.

I’m not saying a life of glamour and temptation was healthy for him — or anyone. That was one of the earliest conversations he and I had. But I will not judge the totality of a wonderful man I know to be deeply loving, generous, kind, and spiritual. I believe in redemption, second chances, healing, forgiveness, and real Christianity — the kind that calls people to change and walk differently but also seeks to understand. From the very beginning, our relationship has been grounded in that. Long before the documentary, Robert was determined to live a new life, and when SRK came out, that commitment only deepened.

That’s why it has been painful watching false assumptions — such as the claim that he had two much younger girlfriends at once — become “truth” in the public mind. We tried everything we could to get attorneys to correct the record, but they wouldn’t. Eventually, too many outside voices interfered. Well-intentioned but some self-serving people circulated the stories about Azriel Clary and Joycelyn Savage, convincing Robert that if he exposed the people manipulating witnesses first, the courts would finally see the corruption. He tried every approach he could, but he couldn’t get the courts to listen, and the hunger for attention built on his name spread like a virus. Even today, people put his name in titles simply because it guarantees views.

His stage name has been exploited so ruthlessly that getting our truth, the truth heard — even by a few — has been incredibly difficult. And I have personally dealt with smear campaigns, manipulation, and harassment, too, because of it. When SRK was released, the timing could not have been more strategic. Without the earlier showmance between Aaliyah and Robert (see my blog story on that) and without the momentum of MeToo, it would never have taken flight the same way.

MeToo framed itself as a movement to give women a voice — but it narrowed abuse to only physical and sexual harm, ignoring other destructive forms of abuse used by both men and women: legal abuse (weaponizing courts), relational abuse (destroying reputations through lies), and financial abuse. Unfortunately, these gaps became a playground for people willing to exploit the movement for attention and revenge.

They also ignored the long-term trauma and suffering caused to women from these fraudulent cases. The women who were partners, children and loved ones of the men falsely accused (mostly high-profile men). But also women who report their assault privately, the right way and who may forever be questioned because of the fakes they rush to defend and the rush to charge and convict innocent men.

Not to mention what it does socially to the relationships between men and women. Trust has been destroyed.

Many of the women in SRK had complicated histories — including documented mental health issues or past fraud and stalking cases or other criminal charges connected to unscrupulous behaviour. One even had a history of a false allegation of abuse that was investigated by two agencies at the time and found to not be true (Drea Kelly, regarding Joanne Kelly, their daughter. This accusation followed Robert’s decision to divorce Drea). This information came from public records and the testimony of close relatives and former partners. The creators of SRK ignored this completely or didn’t care enough to even question their intent, because all were set to profit from these stories. Instead, they relied on shock factor and volume, assuming the public would never question motives.

Robert’s attorney early on Douglas Anton, said they received hundreds of calls from people whose stories had been edited out or rejected because they didn’t fit the narrative (they were contacted by the producers, but the stories were then apparently rejected after their stories of great times with him were heard). Only when the backlash grew did the producers add select opposing voices to their second edition of SRK — but by then, the public had already made up its mind and Robert had already been arrested based on the first reality TV show they made. Kim Foxx encouraged formal complaints to be made by the participants, promising results, while openly admitting she was personally triggered. She was running for re-election and teamed up with now convicted and imprisoned fraud attorney Micheal Avenatti. Avenatti claimed in a text message to someone (which I have), that he “set Robert up to look like a predator and that Kim Foxx would benefit by winning re-election.”

The people behind SRK — many coming from reality-TV backgrounds — lacked experience in serious investigative documentary work. Reality television is designed for drama, not truth. It scripts conflict, manipulates emotion, and edits reality into fiction. Trusting that team to responsibly handle severe criminal accusations was reckless.

Even though many participants weren’t paid large sums, their motives were emotional — revenge, resentment, hurt pride, bitterness, and the lure of recognition. It was psychological abuse by proxy. Some later cashed in through sponsorships, visibility, and status — all built on damaging Robert.

To understand the full picture, you must understand him as a person: the polar opposite in character to those who lied. Where they craved spotlight and power, he saw music as simply his calling — not a ladder to fame or power. Those who conspired lacked talent in their own fields, resented their unrealized dreams, and tried to borrow success off his name instead of finding fulfilment in what God had truly called them to do.

This obsession with fame and validation created the perfect environment for injustice. Investigations grew sloppy, biased, and corrupted. Authorities looked to prove guilt instead of seeking the truth. Judges blocked relevant information about accusers’ histories, even though such information is legally and ethically important to establishing credibility. Innocence until proven guilty — the foundation of democracy — vanished the moment a documentary became the courtroom.

Documentaries like these should never be allowed to prejudice public opinion before a fair trial. When guilt is assumed publicly, justice becomes impossible in the courtroom. These documentaries that make serious criminal allegations should be banned entirely because they violate the human right to be presumed innocent and the right to due process (they contaminate the jury pool completely). We have a democratic system whereby real victims can report (privately) any assault, it can be investigated properly and privately, and then if investigated to have evidence or substance, criminal charges can be applied. Most people assume that this is how it happened with Robert, and it wasn’t the case at all. There were no reports at all. The one who reported was investigated to be false and therefore was never followed up with action. Kim Foxx and the NY DOJ at the time were determined to have Robert charged and convicted without having conducted any investigation and without any report ever being made. The charges were based entirely from the SRK stories. They did not allow time for Robert to respond and blocked any response from him covertly through the courts (denying him bond to work and defend himself was one such strategy. Also, denying him the right to sue SRK was also a decision by a Chicago judge early on). There was no presumption of innocence or due process at all. In addition, one particular judge, Judge Ann M. Donnelly, was particularly biased and denied Robert almost everything he asked for in order to be able to defend himself. Whilst giving the prosecution almost everything they asked for. It was beyond shocking and heartbreaking for Robert and I. Where these documentaries can’t be banned due to freedom of speech overlap, no official should ever be allowed to base their decision to charge on a documentary, or in this case, a reality TV series pretending to be a documentary. And if it’s found that there has been extensive contamination of public opinion, charges should be approached with extreme caution and only after extensive and thorough investigation.

Behind the scenes, there were meetings by the participants in private, coordination, and scripting among participants — something they later exposed themselves when they began turning on one another online. One organizer was even caught on video coaching an accuser on what to say.

This entire SRK group grew from one man’s resentment — a father whose business proposal was rejected, whose daughter’s interest in Robert was rejected and whose daughter lied about being with Robert to her family for leverage and their approval (then confessed on two recordings to making it all up). The father had been blackmailing Robert in the background for a long time before he took to using the media to spread false allegations of sex slavery, hostage keeping, abuse and control to the media (mostly TMZ and Youtube). That lie from his daughter was used as leverage with YouTubers who were hungry for success and TMZ (they made claims of Robert controlling their daughter by making her hide a relationship that didn’t exist, and even darker allegations that Robert could not even defend himself against; I have explained this in other blog posts and on our YouTube channel in more detail). It snowballed when he met another disgruntled father (whose grown intern daughter’s advances were also rejected, and together, they fed the media sensational, heinous and dark claims. Over time, more people looking to gain joined in for the fun of it (they seemed to want to see how much they could get away with saying about Robert, a once beloved music icon) — some for revenge, some for money, some simply for attention.

Statistics show sociopathy is not rare (statistics say 1 in 25 people are sociopaths). When millions interact with a public figure, it’s easy to gather dozens willing to fabricate stories for five minutes of fame. They do not lose sleep about damage caused — they lack empathy. They can charm, manipulate, and love-bomb — just as they did with Robert, and just as they did with the public.

I don’t enjoy speaking about these things. It is heavy and dark. But I also believe we all can attract these characters in life without intention— and when someone does not yet fully see their own value, they may allow harmful people into their life. I hope people can learn from Robert’s story about trust and valuing oneself entirely and not allowing people to guilt you into having access. Consent rights for men are vital too. Because rejecting a woman’s advances or love should never come with a false allegation of abuse or assault. People ask how Robert could be fooled by so many if this is all true. My answer is: the same people who fooled the public also fooled him (they are masters of deception and manipulation on a grand scale). And it happened at scale because fame multiplies exposure.

This is why humility, patience, love, peace, and — at times — simply minding our own business, matter so deeply. If true Christian values had been applied from the beginning, none of this could have taken root. And yes, had Robert himself been walking fully in Biblical wisdom in earlier years, they would have had nothing at all to use against him.

But he is not that man anymore. Seven years ago, he fell in love with a mature, independent, spiritually grounded woman (I say humbly :)— me — when he had endless options. He chose commitment, redemption, honesty, and faith. He never ran, betrayed, or abandoned the relationship. That kind of transformation comes only from humility and surrender to God. Very few men — especially powerful men — ever reach that point.

My hope is that people pause and reflect before judging. Judge yourself first — then you may see clearly enough to address the small faults in others.

Lastly, I just also want to say this ….

What I’ve shared here is a condensed, summarized version of events — deliberately leaving out some names and specific details. This is to allow space for a serious, high-level investigation at the Federal level, under President Trump, which we are calling for. In the future, we plan to release our own publications, including the names and places of those involved at the right time. For now, this summary is meant for anyone who wants to understand the story as it stands at this stage. I have however I have gone into far more detail in other posts. So please refer to past articles-posts for a deeper understanding of his and my story.

J.

Next, it’s time to move forward and time to move on…. Finally!