Before I post my next piece on relationships, I thought it was important to briefly talk about Robert and his relationship with his children. To also briefly discuss “karma” and answer it in the way I have all questions about him. The answer always lies in God. God makes things clear. If something isn’t clear, God is always willing to reveal it to anyone who genuinely wants the truth. But for people who have confirmation bias, there is no room for God and truth, because you have already decided what the truth is and are only looking for evidence of it. I pray that God gives such people more humility and humanity to care more about people and what is true than about being right and feeding their self-importance and narcissism.

Having said that, I won’t cover the issue of parental alienation abuse in full here. What it is and how it led to this catastrophic sequence of events, leading to “karma,” I will simply implore you to research this topic before trying to comprehend his situation with his children.

“Parental alienation can be identified through the presence of five factors: (1) the child refuses, opposes, or avoids a relationship with a parent; (2) the child had a positive relationship with that parent before they rejected them; (3) there is no evidence of abuse or neglect perpetrated by the rejected parent; (4) the other parent has used multiple parental alienating behaviours; (5) the child exhibits behavioural manifestations of parental alienation.” _⁽¹⁾

Robert never had the psychological terms to explain what was going on, and as a father, socially, he didn’t have the support to be transparent with the public about the amount of abusive behavior he was subjected to with Andrea Lee-McKee, their mother. Men are rarely believed when it comes to abuse and children. Corrupt women will use these social advantages to gain power, public support for their abuse, and even, in this case, undeserved honor, as Andrea Lee-McKee has for many years.

Once you understand the implications of parental alienation abuse, you will completely understand Robert’s unbearable and long-suffering situation with Andrea Lee and his children. You will understand why they became estranged, why they came to believe that he didn’t love them, why they came to believe he was the things people lied about and falsely claimed, and why his daughter made the false allegations she did at the time she did. None of this will surprise you once you research and understand parental alienation abuse and how it affects both the alienated parent and the child, even when grown. All of these outcomes are symptoms of parental alienation abuse.

Here are my views regarding “Karma” and their overall attitude, words, thinking and behaviour towards their father in these last 6 years:

Sirach 3:10 says “Never seek honor for yourself at your father’s expense; it is not to your credit if he is dishonored. ¹¹ Your own honor comes from the respect that you show to your father.”

Their behavior, words, spirit, and actions against their father are unforgivable. It is unforgivable in human terms. If we were not Christians, we could choose never to forgive and to forget instead. But for God, but for Jesus, only in and through God can we find hope, healing, forgiveness, and reconciliation, when there is true repentance, confession, and a denouncing of evil—not before. Yes, Andrea Lee-McKee (previously Drea Kelly) is responsible as the one who alienated them. But as adults, they had free will to choose goodness, justice, and love over corruption, lies, and betrayal. God gives us a conscience to know what is right and wrong. You never do what they did to any human being, let alone their own father, who only loved them with all his might. That’s the evil part. If we ignore God, we can do great harm to others. It doesn’t matter what we think and believe. The only thing that matters is the truth. The truth is made up of facts and reality, not feelings. Facts are: the allegation was fabricated and was already found to be such by two agencies. So why repeat such evil in front of the world except for greed and an addiction to fame and attention? Why never sit down with him and have a conversation first if there was any genuine concern for the truth, healing, and justice? Why appear before the world to make such a false and evil claim without any care at all for him? Why blindside him in the midst of the worst time of his life, right then, never having had this conversation before for him to help clear up any confusion? Why choose that moment except for being led by evil? As human beings, they owed him this bare minimum. As a father, they owe him everything they had, and especially their own lives; even having each other is only because of him. These are sociopathic, sadistic, and even some psychopathic tendencies that are not of God but of the Devil.

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Here are my other thoughts on this issues:

Children are always susceptible to suggestions and their environment. Scientific research has proven that genetic factors are no match for a child’s environment and its influence. Anyone who denies this lacks a fundamental understanding of human development and growth.

We live in a world that constantly and subconsciously programs children through the media, leading them to believe in things that are unhealthy, not beneficial, or not conducive to making loving choices.
We need to help children become influenced only by goodness, God, and God’s direction and words.

This whole “love” movement has become prevalent, even replacing God for some. Yet, only God possesses a truly healthy concept of love. The word “love” used to have a deeper meaning, but now it often refers to fleeting feelings of euphoria or warmth. It can be associated with any experience, even those induced by drugs and alcohol.

People crave love, but continue to seek it in all the wrong places.

Love is respect. Healthy love is kind. Love shows genuine empathy. Love is self-sacrificing, strength, humility, and gentleness, but sometimes love is discipline, direction, and firmness (boundaries and walls to protect). What love isn’t is giving children free will and so much freedom that they don’t have any boundaries, or disciplining them only to listen to you but not to other authority figures. This leads them to lack respect. They don’t have respect and love for people who truly love them, and they can’t identify what true love is anymore or what is good anymore, because the person they turned to most led them down the wrong path and in the wrong direction.

They seek love in every direction and place they shouldn’t be under the sun: trauma bonds, drugs, sex, rock and roll, social media relationships, music, or fame and attention.

Not giving children healthy boundaries under God, a healthy home environment with true role models and influence, leads to a disconnection from who they really are and even from all that is normal, healthy, good, and whole.

They will grow to hate what is good and love what is evil.

They will not recognize love in its purest form, and they will sabotage their own lives and eventually destroy their own lives and blame the world for it.

Photos don’t tell the complete story. How many photos do you see of families smiling with each other, then you hear that one of the members committed a horrible crime randomly against another member of the family?

We are in such a sociopathic, narcissistic society today—a godless world right now. Where it’s flipped, and you may instantly think in this story that the crime was against the child. But in this story, the crime was against the father, from his own child and through the influence of her environment.

The worst part of the disconnection here is that the grown adult children don’t see it as a crime because they watched one parent do the same under the banner of “truth-telling and healing.” But to falsely accuse someone of a serious crime and offense that was proven by authorities to be false is a crime.

It’s a crime because it can lead to the false incrimination of another human being.
It’s a crime to falsely accuse anyone of a crime. Under the law, if you are no longer a child, you can be charged for this as an adult, I believe. That’s what happened to #JussieSmollett, especially if it leads to unjust criminal proceedings or even a conviction. But even if it doesn’t and just wastes investigators’ time and government resources.

The lack of mental health in a primary parent can lead to endless issues. They transfer behavior, responses, and thinking onto their children. From anxiety, depression, pathological lying, delusions, a disconnection from reality, self-deceit, self-adoration, narcissism, sociopathy, fake storytelling, a lack of respect for the law or others protected by the law (beliefs that they are above the law or entitled), a lack of respect for people the parent decides should not be respected, self-hate, self-objectification (of a sexual kind), and so much more. But most of all, trauma can be transferred.

It can take many years, even into middle age, to correct and heal this childhood trauma. Some people never do.

I hope I have explained some things to those of you who have young children. Most children are sweet and innocent. Most are beautiful and have kindness and empathy. But it doesn’t matter what you tell them to do or be. They will follow the primary caretaker or parent’s behavior, or the behavior of the parent of the same gender. They follow behaviors, responses, and beliefs.

They follow subconsciously until it becomes who they are. So, if you are violent, they will be violent, etc. If you are disconnected from reality, they will struggle with knowing what reality is. If the parent is narcissistic, children, or at least one child statistically, will also have these traits.

If you are not willing to change and be a new person, to change your environment, to choose better partners, spouses, and a better lifestyle, please do not have children, i.e., do not have sexual intercourse!

The children you raise in such an environment could grow up to harm you, even destroy you, and not even care.

Learn to think before you have sex. Learn to actually see the worst-case scenario. To see into the future and what that looks like with the person you are choosing to sleep with.

Learn to think through decisions like marriage as if your life depends on it, because it does!

Children are a blessing from God. But if they are not raised in a loving home, they could end up being the complete opposite.
I say this with all the love in my heart for Robert’s children. But they don’t recognize what love is anymore. So, they may well take some of these truths as a curse.
But real love is speaking the truth. Truth isn’t a feeling but an established fact and reality.

I don’t believe they have had much truth at home. They have been told lies that were presented as “truths,” but were, in fact, delusions, lies, and even covert forms of manipulation.

They are at an age where their thinking, behavior, and being are far more concrete. They are adults now.

“Social learning theory states that children learn by observing the behavior of others, so parenting styles and the child’s learned experiences determine whether they behave politely or aggressively in specific situations.

By contrast, learning’s genetic component encompasses the biological foundation of cognitive processes, as explained in Frontiers in Psychology. Genetic and epigenetic contributions to the learning process are inheritable and interact with behavioral learning such as study habits and the availability of educational resources.” ⁽²⁾

“The field of behavioral genetics studies how nature and nurture combine to affect a child’s development. It states that while genetics have a greater overall impact on a person’s makeup than their family environment does, most of an individual’s behavioral traits cannot be traced to specific genes or family characteristics. Instead, each human behavioral trait is associated with a great number of genetic variants, each of which contributes a very small amount to the expression of the trait.

Within the complex relationship between a child’s genetic makeup and learned experiences, distinctions can be drawn between the human traits that children are born with and those that result from their environment.” ⁽²⁾

They will need far more willpower to correct what has been “deformed” in their thinking since a young age. They will need God to fully enter their minds, hearts, and souls, to cut off the bad and evil influences and power, and to denounce it.

They will need a solid commitment to righteousness and right thinking until that becomes concrete instead.

Robert and I will continue to pray for each of them, that they heal through God, that they change through God, that they become who they were meant to be had they had a loving home and family, that they don’t continue to make irreversibly bad and even criminal decisions, but instead decisions that lead them to God, life, love, and happiness, even if they are the hardest decisions they could make.

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WHAT ABOUT ROBERT & WOMEN. HAS HE REPENTED HIMSELF? 🇺🇲🗽🦅

The short answer is yes, completely.

Robert leads with great love. He is a man of great love, humility, strength, resilience, and faith.

He is a man grounded in reality whose greatest strength people say is his realness.

His one weakness, that he put behind him many years ago now was the attention of women due to his fame. Women flocked him, preyed on him, stalked him, begged him and lied to get near him and just be with him.

But that’s the only blemish on him, I have known. This sin he repented of over 6 years ago now. He fully repented, choosing monogamy with me, self love but most of all choosing God.

Has he been perfect on his path to righteousness? No. Who can say they are or ever will be. But when it comes to women that sin he has been “perfect” about. That part of his past he has not even considered again. You may say he had no choice. But I gave him the choice. I gave him free will, freedom to choose this whole time we have together (over 6 years) and he still chose God, me and monogomy. He still pushed them all away.

Superficially what he said online whilst incarcerated was never what he lived. That was due to his attorney’s lies. He couldn’t find a way out of them without incriminating himself.

I shared a video on YouTube during a time when we were just “courting,” but he would call it “kicking it 🇺🇲” :). He was resolute to keep women away from him even in the early days. Because his weakness was not and never was that he couldn’t keep away from women, but that he didn’t know how to say no to all of them. He didn’t know how to keep them away.

He is responsible for his choices in those moments for sure. But his past is not a reflection of who he is or of his soul. Which is the purest I have ever known. By far!

But his children…well, they chose to follow their mother instead (except with music). Her values include fame, money, attention seeking, being superficial, corruption, weakness, destruction, sabotage, revenge, self objectification, self hate, Godless ness, shamelessness, pride, arrogance, hate, narcissism and mental delusion.

They may not be to her extreme but they mirrored her repeatedly.

She has never repented or even tried because so far she hasn’t been caught in her lies. Caught by the law or the public.

But God never forgets and still has time.

Viva Christo Rei
Long live Christ the King

PS it will be another day before the next piece on relationships is uploaded onto our blog.

I apologise, but I thought it wiser to take a minute to breathe.

Lady Juliet A.O

The Book of Sirach (Only found in the Catholic/original Christian bible), particularly Chapter 3, heavily emphasizes the importance of honoring and respecting one’s father, stating that those who fear the Lord will honor their father and serve their parents as masters; it also highlights the lasting benefits of caring for a father in his old age, considering it a form of sin offering. 

Key verses from Sirach about fatherhood:

• Sirach 3:2-3:“Honor your father in word and deed, that you may receive a blessing from him; for a father’s blessing establishes the houses of children, but a mother’s curse uproots their foundations.” 
• Sirach 3:8:“Those who fear the Lord honor their father, and serve their parents as masters.” 
• Sirach 3:12-13:“My child, help your father in his old age, and do not grieve him in his lifetime; even if his mind fails, be considerate of him; do not despise him because you are in your prime.” 
• Sirach 3:14:“Kindness to a father will not be forgotten; it will serve as a sin offering—it will take lasting root.” 

Key themes about fatherhood in Sirach:

• Obedience and respect:Children are instructed to obey and respect their fathers as a primary duty. 
• Care in old age:The responsibility to care for and support one’s father, especially when he becomes elderly, is emphasized. 
• Blessings and curses:A father’s blessing is seen as powerful and beneficial, while his curse can have negative consequences. 

References:

1.Verhaar, S., Matthewson, M. L., & Bentley, C. (2022). The Impact of Parental Alienating Behaviours on the Mental Health of Adults Alienated in Childhood. Children (Basel, Switzerland), 9(4), 475. https://doi.org/10.3390/children9040475

2. Marrickville University. (2020). Nature vs. Nurture Child Development: Exploring Key Differences. https://online.maryville.edu/blog/nature-vs-nurture-child-development/